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Positive Words

For all our talk of positive thinking it’s astounding how quick we often are to criticize and complain. For some bizarre reason it seems to be easier for us to give voice to our complaints than to compliments. We’re often quicker to express our dissatisfaction than our gratitude.

As powerful as positive thinking can be, all the positive thoughts in the world aren’t going to be effective if the moment something doesn’t go quite as planned we’re complaining. Those negative words will very quickly cancel out the positive thoughts that came before.

The words we speak carry even greater power and energy than the thoughts we think. Words are simply thoughts expressed and giving expression to our thoughts increases their energy.

To really create positive change in our lives requires more than positive thinking. Positive words and positive action must follow. Much of the time our thoughts are on auto-pilot. We’re not really aware of them. The same is often true of the words we speak.

If you’re thinking this doesn’t really apply to you, that you don’t complain much, try really becoming aware of the words you speak for just one day. You may be surprised when you pay closer attention to discover that you complain and criticize more than you’d realized.

On the flip side, also observe how often you think something positive but don’t speak it. Again, you may be surprised at what you discover. With greater awareness you can make a point of speaking the positive and holding your tongue when the negative words start to slip out. You’ll feel better, more uplifted and energized, and so will everyone with whom you’re speaking and interacting each day.

Posted on Jun 8th 07 by Lisa Wilder.

Lisa is passionate about helping others to create lives and businesses they're passionate about and which bring them joy. Through her small business coaching and consulting she helps service professionals boldly step out of their comfort zone into The Wilder Zone to build successful businesses doing what they love. http://www.thewilderzone.com http://www.thewilderzone.com

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Negative Thinking or Proactive Planning?

Andy Wibbels made a post yesterday about negative thinking. His post got me thinking about the differences between negative thinking and proactive planning – acknowledging the very real possibility that challenges will arise on your way to the postive outcome you’re working toward and deciding in advance how you’ll deal with them if they do.

I’m all for postive thinking, visualizing, setting intentions for positive outcomes. I’m a fan of the core message of The Secret, that we create our reality and have the power to bring that reality into closer alignment with what we most desire it to be if only we can become more conscious of our thoughts, the choices we’re making and the actions we’re taking.

At the same time, I believe it’s critical to be aware of, to plan for, the possibility of seemingly negative occurences or challenges arising in the process. This may seem contradictory, but bear with me for a moment.

There’s a world of difference between telling yourself you can’t do something, are incapable of achieving something (negative thinking), and setting an intention to achieve a positive outcome and then assessing, identifying, and planning for, the possibility of challenges arising along the way.

The fact is, you can think positively, visualize your dream life incessantly but if you don’t take action you’re not going to get very far, and let’s face it, taking action means trial and error. Not every action you take is going to turn out exactly as you envisioned it would. If you’re relying solely on postive thinking, when the action you’ve taken doesn’t pan out as expected you’re likely to become frustrated, disheartened, and convinced that “postive thinking” doesn’t work. And you’d be right. Positive thinking alone doesn’t cut it.

If, on the other hand, you’ve acknowledged that the action you’re about to take might not go quite as planned, you can look at ways to avert disaster, identify steps you can take to make it more likely you will achieve that positive outcome and, alternatively, you can put a back-up plan in place. Then if things don’t go as expected, rather than feeling frustrated or deciding to throw in the towel, you simply implement Plan B and keep moving forward.

For example, when I take on any new project I set an intention for a positive outcome and I identify, in advance, the obstacles I think might get in the way of my achieving it. Once I’ve done that I can then look at ways to either lessen the possibility of those obstacles arising in the first place, or I can decide how I’ll approach handling them if they do arise.

This isn’t negative thinking, it’s proactive planning, and it makes the chances of achieving whatever you’ve set out to achieve much more likely.

Posted on May 24th 07 by Lisa Wilder.

Lisa is passionate about helping others to create lives and businesses they're passionate about and which bring them joy. Through her small business coaching and consulting she helps service professionals boldly step out of their comfort zone into The Wilder Zone to build successful businesses doing what they love. http://www.thewilderzone.com http://www.thewilderzone.com

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Overcome Procrastination: Shift Your Focus

Chances are you’ve got at least one task that you’ve been meaning to get to for days, or even weeks. Something you know you “should” get done, but that somehow continues to get put off.

If you observe your thoughts when you think about that particular task you will likely recognize that they’re negative. In fact, they’re frequently focused on the reasons why you don’t want to do that particular task, or on all of the excuses for why you can’t get it done. Far from inspiring you to take action, staying focused on these things will increase your stress level and drain your energy, not to mention your confidence and belief in your ability to get that task done, making it less and less likely over time that you will get it done.

If you find yourself groaning at the mere thought of doing what you’ve been putting off, and you find yourself getting caught in the litany of reasons why you don’t or can’t get it done, take a moment to stop and shift your focus.

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Posted on Apr 27th 07 by Lisa Wilder.

Lisa is passionate about helping others to create lives and businesses they're passionate about and which bring them joy. Through her small business coaching and consulting she helps service professionals boldly step out of their comfort zone into The Wilder Zone to build successful businesses doing what they love. http://www.thewilderzone.com http://www.thewilderzone.com

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Are You Dieting in Disguise?

Rejecting dieting is a growing trend these days, finally! You may have heard that diets don’t work, and several experts are making their voices heard that dieting is actually one of the best ways to gain weight! Hopefully you have jumped on the non-dieting bandwagon. But if you have, are you sure you have escaped the “diet mentality”?

There are subtle, inconspicuous things that many of us do that may not look like diet behavior, but they are. What I call “diets in disguise” are out there, waiting for you to take the bait. Just the intention to “eat healthy” can be considered a diet because there will inevitably be restrictions on certain foods that you don’t consider healthy. Here are some other diets in disguise to consider:

• Eating or not eating at specific times each day. Do you eat lunch because it’s “lunch time”, instead of because you are hungry? Do you stop eating after 7pm because you have heard it leads to weight gain? If you’re physically hungry at bed time, it’s okay to eat, your body needs the food!

• Eating every 3 hours whether you are hungry or not (as some diets suggest you do). If you aren’t hungry, don’t eat, your body doesn’t need it and it will just go to your fat stores.

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Posted on Mar 23rd 07 by Gillian Hood-Gabrielson.

Gillian Hood-Gabrielson is an intuitive eating and fitness coach specializing in overcoming overeating. She has been involved in the health and fitness industry for over 10 years, holds a Master's Degree in Exercise Physiology and is certified by ACSM and Wellcoaches. Having overcome emotional overeating after living with it for 25 years, Gillian has a great understanding of why so many people battle this disorder and has a passion for helping others overcome it so they can live their lives fully. http://www.healthieroutcomes.com

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